I'm going to "Bee" very organized this year!

Tuesday, December 29, 2015
It's almost a new year! 
 YAY, I love the chance to start anew and try to set new goals. 

For weeks I have been struggling to find a calendar that really fits my needs, simple and concise, yet I want it to have all the important things to keep me organized. I absolutely love the calendar on my phone and use it daily for those wonderful auto reminders but I still love a visual paper plan.

Last year I used the much loved Mormon mom planner which is full of really awesome planning tools (you can find it here.) It may work awesome for you lots of people really LOVE it! However, it was just more than what I wanted. I loved the week at a glance section, but it was a little bulky and I really wish I could have hung it up in my kitchen!

So I started searching again about a month ago to find an alternative and there was just NOTHING that came close, so I decided to put one of my own together. It will have a lot less of the bells and whistles.
  • It will be an 8.5 x 11 spiral bound two week at a glance calendar (11x17 when hung up).
  • A weekly journaling section to record memorable moments.
  • An uplifting quote to ponder each week.
  • Plus a checklist section to remind me of my every day goals. 
Don't forget my favorite part.... a little section on each calendar day where I can write down a dinner idea! 
I find that planning dinner's in advance is the number one thing that helps me keep sane at the end of a long day.
Here is an image of what it will look like..... I've nicknamed it my "Bee" the best mom calendar!
I am madly working on completing this project that I should have started a month or two ago, I hope to have it done and printed by next week. With all this time and effort I decided to offer the option for my friends and family to purchase a copy too. I've estimated the printing price to be about $22-25. It will be all in color and the cover will be laminated for durability.

Wish me luck...DO YOU WANT ONE too?!

Can I really change?

Tuesday, October 13, 2015

Being an imperfect human being is so frustrating sometimes! We take the time to work on ourselves and strive to be better and then we go and fall back into old habits and make the same mistakes we have been making for years even though we have been trying so hard to change.  
                                     Why do we do that? 

Marvin J. Ashton shared this timeless guidance on change…
“When a [favorite] plant became root bound and began to deteriorate, a young friend of ours decided to transplant it to a larger container. Carefully he lifted the greenery from its small pot and put it into its larger home, trying to disturb the roots and soil as little as possible. The novice gardener watched and waited. To his dismay, the plant still struggled. Our friend expressed his frustration to an experienced gardener who offered his services. When the plant was placed in the gardener’s hands, he turned the pot upside down, pulled out the plant, shook the soil from the roots, and clipped and pulled all the stragglers from the root system. Replacing the plant into the pot, he vigorously pushed the soil tightly around the plant. Soon the plant took on new life and grew.
How often in life do we set our own roots into the soil of life and become root bound? We may treat ourselves too gently and defy anyone to disturb the soil or trim back our root system. Under these conditions we too must struggle to make progress. Oh, change is hard! Change can be rough….

C. S. Lewis indicated there is often pain in change when he wrote of God’s expectations for His children: “Imagine yourself as a living house. God comes in to rebuild that house. At first, perhaps, you can understand what He is doing. He is getting the drains right and stopping the leaks in the roof and so on: you knew those jobs needed doing and so you are not surprised. But presently he starts knocking the house about in a way that hurts abominably and does not seem to make sense. What on earth is He up to? The explanation is that He is building quite a different house from the one you thought of—throwing out a new wing here, putting on an extra floor there, running up towers, making courtyards. You thought you were going to be made into a decent little cottage: but He is building a palace” (C. S. Lewis, Mere Christianity, New York: MacMillan Co., 1960, p. 160)….

First, we must understand the need for change. An unexamined life is not worth living…. The recognition of the need to change has to be a greater force than the luxury of staying the same.

Second, the facts must be authentic. We need to know how, what, where, and why to change. The gospel of Jesus Christ can help us set short-term, intermediate, and long-term goals by teaching us who we are, where we came from, why we are here, and where we are going. With this knowledge, a person will have greater strength to improve.

Third, a system for change must be established. It was Emerson who said, A man who sits “on the cushion of advantages, goes to sleep. When he is pushed, tormented, defeated, he has been put on his wits, … [learns] moderation and real skill” (“Compensation,” The Complete Writings of Ralph Waldo Emerson, New York: Wm. H. Wise & Co., 1929, p. 161).
Our change must be planned and orderly. After our system for change is established, it must be followed through to completion, even though it may disturb our very root system.

Fourth, we must be totally committed to our plan for change. A Chinese proverb says, “Great souls have wills; feeble souls have only wishes.” Unless we have the will to improve, all the other steps to change will be wasted. This last step separates the winners from the losers.

To read his entire talk (I highly recommend it)  CLICK HERE.

I believe the key reason we fall back into old ways and continue to make mistakes is because we lack a plan. I know this is why I am failing at many of my goals, because I haven’t formed a true plan on how I want to accomplish them. So what is that they say about a goal that is not written down? That it is simply a dream!

Let us make a lasting change when necessary by following these steps:
      1.    Determine why we need to change.   
      2.    Write down how we plan to change. 
      3.    Move forward with the plan, even if it causes us to change more than our original plan. 
      4.    Find things that give you the will to keep going when the going gets hard!
Here’s an example from my life:
Currently I am working on a goal that maybe some of you could relate to,  I am striving to be more positive.  Recently I have been much more focused on the negative than the good in my life. As a wife, mom, & daughter I feel stretched a little thin somedays. On those days I’ve been known to look around at the undone chores, pile of backpacks & shoes by the front door, dinner yet to be decided on-- let alone made. It can make me feel like the walls are closing in on me, and I say “What is wrong with me? Why don’t I have it together like So&So does?”

 Well here’s my plan to change…

Step 1:
I need to change my thinking because it is not helpful or conducive to my main goal of a peaceful and happy home. I also want my family to notice the good around us, how will they learn to do that if I only notice the bad.

Step 2:
My plan to change: When I start to entertain a negative thought I actively look for a way to twist it into a positive thought.
(For example instead of seeing the pile of shoes next to the door I can thank my kids for not tracking dirt into the house as I gently remind them to move them to their appropriate location. )

Step 3:
Somedays I find that I start to justify my negative thoughts, this is when I ask myself the question is better to be “right” or to have a peaceful, happy home? Then hopefully I remember the best answer and keep trying to see the positive things.

Step 4:
Be patient with myself, but continue to do those things that help keep me moving forward, not backwards. (Scripture study, prayer, peaceful walks alone, etc.!)

What are you currently trying to change about yourself? Remember the first step is recognizing a need for change!